An injury is an injury, be it physiological, or psychological. When that is widely accepted, humans trying to be will, have made progress.
The only thing you owe anybody in this life is proper manners. That's all.
How about taking on the issues instead of the people that present them. If we can't see common interests we are fucked. Love to stay, can't.
Spicy life, will get you a spicy wife.
Finding the right mate is well and good, but don't let the search define you. And by the way, never settle. Your true mate may not come along in this life time, and that's totally ok.